Remembering. . .

I am pretty sure I was still going through the motions and running on adrenaline, three years ago. Today, I am still working on allowing myself to feel the fear and pain while recognizing the amazing journey.

Three years ago our Christmas card was sent from the NICU (the first picture of my three girls). The picture touched me which left me praying that the girls would learn to love and feel love, especially after watching their older sister love them unconditionally. We begged God to heal our baby girl who was still fighting for life after three long months in the NICU. Looking back, God answered those prayers and Adeline made a remarkable turn around in three short weeks. On Christmas day, Adeline was discharged, and joined her family at home. The love of sisterhood has grown each day since.

This year, we celebrated the ease of life, the health of our girls, and joy of family. 

We are thankful for God's lessons over the past three years. I feel that our family remains centered during the season, reflecting on the gift of family and God's grace. The stress levels and chaos are down and the presents are lower in number, while the "moments" with one another continue to multiply.

Christmas will always be about Adeline and her fight for home.  She will always be the gift that made my family complete.

Here is The Belle on Christmas morning, thrilled that Santa put Goldfish in her stocking. 

 

Potty Trained

Since I haven't gotten around to posting Lila Grace's big milestone, I will slip it in here. I want to at least document it so I can look back and know how young she was when she gave up the diapers. I am sure I will turn into every other grandparent out there and have a selective memory, meaning only good ones that are a bit inflated. When Lila Grace comes to me frustrated about potty training her own children, I can look back here and tell her that it took three tries and that the third one was successful at 2.5 years old - 2 years 9 months to be exact.

I posted previously about trying to train Lila and never mentioned that after April's attempt, she remained in Pull-ups. Not my intention but just how things worked out. She would go to the potty here and there but the Pull-up was always wet. It managed to get drier and drier over time and Lila started making quick pit stops on the potty. This encouraged me to toss the Pull-ups and break out the big girl panties for good.

Surprisingly. . . Lila went one full week without an accident. She did mark the end of that week in a crying fit while in Time Out. Who knew she was crying because she had to go potty and not that she was generally angry. She peed on the floor but was really upset by it and now knows she can sneak to the potty if need be, even when in Time Out.

So there you have it, potty trained and accident free before three. Not bad for a 1 pound 15 ounce baby. She only marginally lagged behind Savannah. I must note that we are still using the diaper when sleeping. I have no desire to change sheets unnecessarily. It hasn't instilled any sort of "diaper confusion" and, like sippy cups, are a form of mess prevention that I plan to use for a VERY long time.

I sigh in exhaustion when thinking about doing this all over again. Adeline. . . your turn.

People Magazine and Micro Preemies

Adeline Belle 2 days old

I am going to try and make this short and to the point. I could go on and on.

Recently, People Magazine spotlighted six micro preemies. It was an attempt to inspire. In the preemie community, it infuriated. Unfortunately, this article portrays the micro preemie road as pretty uneventful. A stay in the NICU, a few steam baths in the tub and all is well. We, who raise these micro preemies beg to differ. The statistics quoted are taken from a cohort of surviving micros in the 80's and state how nearly 90% finished high school and more than half went on to college. The article failed to mention how many didn't make it out of the NICU. In the 80's only the strongest micro preemies would survive. I am positive the statistics would have been much more grim had they included the percentage of babies that were never brought home.

This easily segways to the fact that more babies are surviving with the progression of science and technology. Some of these babies would have not survived in the 80's and most likely suffer from a disablility today. If these same babies have escaped a diagnosis, they are certainly traveling with Adeline on her "not so smooth road" of prematurity.

I think that People Magazine had good intentions but covering a topic such as prematurity/micro prematurity isn't something that can be done in a brief article. Yes, I want to hear stories of hope. I want to hear them but don't necessarily think that they need to shower down on society. I scoured the Internet for stories similar to that of my babies in order to find hope and finding these six grown preemies would have lifted my spirits. However, feeding these slightly skewed stories to society only undermines the road of my girls. Most micro preemies don't live a normal life - plain and simple. Being born under two pounds isn't easy, the NICU isn't a mere hospitalization and steam baths don't fix chronic lung disease.

Possibly spotlighting one micro preemie and their very precarious road in the NICU and thereafter could have been a better way to go. This might be the way to get society to understand that babies like mine aren't assumed to live and most certainly are not expected to live a normal life. The odds are stacks against a micro preemie, not for a micro like People Magazine portrayed.

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